I went to public school and, like me, I want my child to have the “total high school experience.”
The idea that a Christian parent who loves the Lord would place such importance on one night in a person’s life where many students become involved in various kinds of substance abuse or gratuitous sex is perplexing indeed.
Christian parents are correct in thinking that an experience like the typical high school prom will make a permanent impact on their child. The loss of sexual purity in the middle and high school years along with the gain of mental pictures and the possibility of catching sexually transmitted diseases are things that their child will never forget. For Christian parents, our God has a great deal to say about purity! However, it is almost as if some Christian parents regard some areas of life as a “legal sin time”-a time that God does not see or hate. However, is there any area of life that God does not reign over and expect Christians to be faithful?
“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable— if anything is excellent or praiseworthy— think about such things.” (Philippians 4:8)
Perhaps there are proms in some public schools where Christ is honored, but because Christianity is banned in the public schools, they would be a rare find. A God honoring alternative to the typical public school prom of this day is a Christian school that enjoys a banquet celebration of some kind where students and parents are invited to rejoice and reflect on the ways God has blessed the child through his school years.
Dating is probably a more controversial issue among Christian parents and often seems more tied to the parents’ personal experience rather than what the Bible says about this part of life. Most Christian schools would likely say that dating creates a distraction for students who need to be focused on their schoolwork. It also limits friendships, as “couples” tend to cut others off from their lives, and it provides a steady stream of sexual temptation. While a Christian school can limit public displays of affection on campus, however, it cannot mandate that students not date.
Sports have become one of the most important things in our culture (a kind of god to our culture), and that fact includes the American churchgoer. Sports are healthy for our children’s bodies, and they help to build strong character. They are also simply a lot of fun, and should be a balanced part of a Christian education. However, God says that anything that is more important than Him is idolatry. That may seem harsh, but it is His Word, plain and simple.
“You shall have no other gods before Me.” (Exodus 20:3)
Therefore, the Christian parent must ask himself if he is trading the daily exposure to the Word of God in the Christian school for a larger sports program in the public school. If the response to that question is, “But I am hoping he can get a scholarship to college,” then there is another issue that is revealed. Does the parent trust God to provide the means for the child’s college education?
“But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the furnace, will He not much more clothe you? You of little faith! Do not worry then, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear for clothing? For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” (Matthew 6:30)